Truth told, there are a LOT of reasons why I wouldn’t want to have multiple wives. (fill in your own joke) 😉
Kidding aside, most of those reasons are actually altruistic at this point. I won’t be going into them here, but if anyone’s curious just ask, that’s what the comment box is for.
Anyway, I have to admit, as a young man in the middle of puberty my mindset towards polygamy was a bit more, shall we say, “favorable”. I tend to think the idea is pretty appealing to the immature male person in general (I’ll let you figure out for yourself why that might be) and I was, to my eventual chagrin, no exception.
That said, when I was about 17 or so, I came across a section of Scripture that utterly snuffed any idealistic notions I’d ever entertained about polygamy. I refer to this passage from Genesis 30 (which you may remember is about Jacob, Rachel, and Leah’s married life):
In the days of wheat harvest Reuben went and found mandrakes in the field and brought them to his mother Leah. Then Rachel said to Leah, “Please give me some of your son’s mandrakes.” But she said to her, “Is it a small matter that you have taken away my husband? Would you take away my son’s mandrakes also?” Rachel said, “Then he may lie with you tonight in exchange for your son’s mandrakes.” When Jacob came from the field in the evening, Leah went out to meet him and said, “You must come in to me, for I have hired you with my son’s mandrakes.” So he lay with her that night.
So what we have here is this poor, tired man, straight in from the fields during the harvest (which I know, having grown up with grandparents in the wheat farming business, is about the most miserably exhausting time of year for a farmer – and keep in mind that Jacob lived in the days before combines). One of his wives sells conjugal rights to the other, when all he probably wants to do is get a good night’s sleep.
Jacob isn’t the beloved, respected husband here – he’s something to barter with! In fact, at the risk of offending some, I would hold that it’s not inaccurate to say that Jacob was literally being “pimped” in this passage. For plants.
It was reading this passage at 17 that convinced me that polygamy was not my cup of tea.
Hey, I didn’t say all my reasons were altruistic. 😉